The effects onto men are more internal. Whereas effects onto women are normally more external.
For example, a man could allow himself to be triggered into rage. And afterwards there will be no visible signs it happened within him.
But his wife could've been around him, and now she has purple bruises.
External signs are more easily measurable, and therefore reported more, therefore readers assume the most affected.
If the man had internal bio-signals measured, such as HRV, blood pressure, etc, you'd see the effects even BEFORE that of a beaten wife. (Of course there are also long-term health issues for being a slave to rage/anger/frustration)
My childhood conditioning was also something which recently unraveled for me.
The first time I had a heart-to-heart with my father, the center of my chest felt viscerally tender.
Mother stole a car and sold it to pay for a cocaine addiction. Father was such a workaholic that he simply marked her behaviors as "strange"... like her taking phone calls into a closet.
After the divorce my father had custody and remarried to continue his absence. (Normally left before I awoke, and I went to bed before he returned. He was even normally late for family dinners on holidays. When he was home, he was sleeping or watching TV)
Sometimes stepmother would return from work and vomit anger onto me and my stepsister. (Only about 2 years ago I realized it was Verbal Abuse)
Re-encoding memories was crucial for my awareness, and mental-emotional progress.
It's challenging at first, but after processing a few traumas, now when a deeper layer surfaces, I know I can immediately bring it to a therapeutic resolution.
The problem with confrontation is people tend to start acting as if they’re playing a role that they don’t know how to leave. As though they’ve seen in movies and places where two sides get ramped up, confront one another, but there’s usually not an equally powerful resolution to model. It’s just: get angry and be blatant/audacious. Notably in movies violent resolutions are much more common as the ultimate resolution, too, and that doesn’t leave much as a compromise or alternative-so just stay pissed/audacious/etc.
I don’t know if I have a suggestion to OP. One option would be to offer to contribute to buying the flowers next time. That’s a soft way to engage and remind there’s others in the audience not being celebrated. Personally, I’d probably be put off by the whole thing and just let them have their moments. Or bring dark chocolate. Chocolate because theobromine acts a little like a happy “everything’s good” buzz for people and men might tend towards dark chocolate over milk. But bring some milk chocolate too-shows you’re being inclusive.
I've lived in Serbia, Croatia, and Hungary... The key is to go to networking events. (Or co-working spaces, or just show up at their company and say you're interested in working there as an engineer and ask if you could get a quick tour)
If networking events don't happen in your country, then become the organizer. You'll instantly be seen as a leader and attendees will eventually want to talk with you. When you organize regularly, they'll start talking about you. Then you're "in".
If you don't live in the capital city, then it's worth the time & money to travel 1x a month or every 2 weeks. Ask attendees if anyone has a spare couch for you to stay on.
Themes for events you can use the major happenings like AI. Or 'duplicate' Meetup events in other cities.
Post flyers near companies doors, make event on FB & Meet-up, find developers on LinkedIn, there are so many options to get the word out. Split Test and discover which one is most effective (ask attendees where they heard about it)
My network creepingly broke away over the past three years and I didn't bother to re-build it. Your post reminds me of the great discussions I've had at networking events. Time to start that again!
In 11th-grade 'Honors' Chemistry, we ran the 'Which water freezes faster' experiment outside in ~0℉.
2 glass beakers with same amount of water: 1 hot, 1 cold, stirring both at the same rate. Teacher told us the experiment was over once ice starting forming on the surface…
Cold water developed ice first.
Outside in that weather, no one waited to see how long hot takes to become ice.
In case you missed this in the article, the effect you described is a possible explanation of why the effect happens …
> Or perhaps external factors come into play: A layer of frost in a freezer can act as an insulator, keeping heat from leaking out of a cold cup, whereas a hot cup will melt the frost and cool faster.
In 11th-grade 'Honors' Chemistry, we ran the 'Which water freezes faster' experiment outside in ~0℉.
2 glass beakers with same amount of water: 1 hot, 1 cold, stirring both at the same rate. Teacher told us the experiment was over once ice starting forming on the surface…
Multiple times, I've performed a multi-hour intestinal cleanse from the Yogic disciplines. And many times there is a mental-emotional release hours later.
From the article itself, the Pyramids are only 12,000 years old. Every other Ancient Wonder has been destroyed.
Essentially there’s a Major Cataclysm about every 10,000 years, and a ‘Minor’ one about every 5000 years (Burkle Crater impact being the most recent).
How do you assume any parts of the Hoover Dam would be intact or even visible “hundreds of thousands of years from now”?
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