Which is beside the point, since it doesn't mean all "alternative future killing decisions" are equal.
Besides, people are actually (in this universe and at the present) in love, getting married etc with other people in their workplace, and you are telling those people not to do it, thus constraining with arbitrary dictums their present experience, not some future universe one.
And if my argument about "most people after thirties socialize more at their work than any other place" is true, this advice also severely limits their options.
And for what? To prevent those situations in which things go wrong, unlike in the successful anecdotes.
For example, people are actually (in this universe and in the present) in love with someone who is ... hooked up with someone else who also works in the same office. They have that rubbed in their face every weekday, starting at 9 a.m., until either they, or those other two, change jobs. While you can't prevent disappointment in this area of life, you can prevent having it be a work situation. In fact, work can be a place where you can get such things out of your mind by concentrating on something else.
>And for what? To prevent those situations in which things go wrong, unlike in the successful anecdotes.
Might as well not do anything in that department then, because all affairs can go wrong (and almost half of marriages do).
>They have that rubbed in their face every weekday, starting at 9 a.m., until either they, or those other two, change jobs. While you can't prevent disappointment in this area of life, you can prevent having it be a work situation. In fact, work can be a place where you can get such things out of your mind by concentrating on something else.
And you can prevent it by magically making yourself not to be in love anymore with a coworker? Or by making yourself to avoid even thinking about liking someone you work with in the first place?
> Or by making yourself to avoid even thinking about liking someone you work with in the first place?
Good grief, what are you going to do if you're married, yet still in daily contact with attractive coworkers? "Hi Honey, I'm home; oh I couldn't conjure up the 'magic' required to stop myself from falling in love with Sue at work today. Sorry!"
One trick is to find at three things (or more; as many as you can) that turn you off about anyone who might even remotely be a target of your affections. You will be surprised how easy it is.
Besides, people are actually (in this universe and at the present) in love, getting married etc with other people in their workplace, and you are telling those people not to do it, thus constraining with arbitrary dictums their present experience, not some future universe one.
And if my argument about "most people after thirties socialize more at their work than any other place" is true, this advice also severely limits their options.
And for what?