In most places in the world, we are raised to pursue monogamous relationships, whether that is predicated on the idea of "true love", or just the need to "settle down and start a family". Either way - monogamy.
In reality, a lot of people aren't happy with monogamy. See the extreme prevalence of cheating/divorce. I'm not OP, but I think the world would be a much happier place if everyone stopped trying to be so monogamous all the time.
If someone prefers monogamy, they can find someone that also prefers monogamy. But society in general shouldn't be trying to dictate that.
I agree completely, however there are practical problems to being polyamorous, namely in finding partners. This is a common complaint if you read poly discussion forums: couples decide to open their relationship, and pretty soon the woman is banging men left and right, while the man can't even find a single new partner.
I'm over 40 now, and somewhat recently divorced so I've been on the dating market for a couple of years or so. I explored poly a bit while still married (wife didn't mind, we got divorced for other reasons), but it didn't go farther than a few coffee-dates. Now that I've been single, I've had to drop the poly stuff altogether if I want to get a date at all; there simply are not any poly-accepting women in the major east coast city I live in, in this age range. Perhaps it's a little better on the west coast. I do see couples in open marriages more and more on Tinder and OKC, but it's still puny, plus most poly women I see online are eclectic in the extreme (and thus would not be interested in me, or vice versa).
Poly seems like a pretty good relationship choice if you're under 30, because that crowd is so much more accepting of alternative lifestyles. If you're over 40, I think you might as well just resign yourself to monogamy and cheating/divorce. Probably best to avoid marriage if you can, just hop from relationship to relationship.
In most places in the world, we are raised to pursue monogamous relationships, whether that is predicated on the idea of "true love", or just the need to "settle down and start a family". Either way - monogamy.
In reality, a lot of people aren't happy with monogamy. See the extreme prevalence of cheating/divorce. I'm not OP, but I think the world would be a much happier place if everyone stopped trying to be so monogamous all the time.
If someone prefers monogamy, they can find someone that also prefers monogamy. But society in general shouldn't be trying to dictate that.