When the incident is ongoing, the person affected is free again and clearly does not want a public debate? Yes, you should respect that, refrain from doing so and weigh in when it is discussed after the fact. I believe you when you say that harassment isn't your goal but a HN discussion will neither solve any of the underlying issues, nor is there even a remote chance of being helpful to the actual victim.
As the deleted tweet shows she clearly has a network in place to let you know when actions like this might be helpful. Days after, that's pretty doubtful.
When the incident is ongoing, the person affected is free again and clearly does not want a public debate? Yes, you should respect that, refrain from doing so and weigh in when it is discussed after the fact. I believe you when you say that harassment isn't your goal but a HN discussion will neither solve any of the underlying issues, nor is there even a remote chance of being helpful to the actual victim.
As the deleted tweet shows she clearly has a network in place to let you know when actions like this might be helpful. Days after, that's pretty doubtful.