In this and many other conversations nowadays I find myself wondering how the narrative applies through the lens of three different groups:
- Those who are generally in good health (mental and physical) and who may have experienced difficulties in the past but do not dwell on them
- People who are victims and who encounter regular struggles as a result -- likely the intended audience of articles like this
- Sociopaths who at best do not understand the emotional pain of others, and at worst enjoy inflicting it
I hope the advice in the article is genuinely intended to help people in the second group.
Sometimes I fear that content is authored or perpetuated by people from the third group who would prefer to place the responsibility for repair on the victims.
And frequently I find that the audience who reads and discusses it is the first group, without really understanding the others and in particular how charming, reasonable and attractive the third group can appear.
In short and in my experience: it is probably good advice but it should not detract focus from the harm that some people willingly cause.
- Those who are generally in good health (mental and physical) and who may have experienced difficulties in the past but do not dwell on them
- People who are victims and who encounter regular struggles as a result -- likely the intended audience of articles like this
- Sociopaths who at best do not understand the emotional pain of others, and at worst enjoy inflicting it
I hope the advice in the article is genuinely intended to help people in the second group.
Sometimes I fear that content is authored or perpetuated by people from the third group who would prefer to place the responsibility for repair on the victims.
And frequently I find that the audience who reads and discusses it is the first group, without really understanding the others and in particular how charming, reasonable and attractive the third group can appear.
In short and in my experience: it is probably good advice but it should not detract focus from the harm that some people willingly cause.