You can very much self identitfy with the now uncountable amounts of genders, pronouns, and cases of mental illness misdiagnosed as LGBT nowadays. I'm not saying gay people choose whom they are attracted to. I get that and I truly believe it. But when people identify as queer, bi, asexual (even though they have sex lol) then its something you're opting into. Clear as day seeing as these people can fluctuate their feelings on a whim.