I do not know who Jason lemkins is but he seems like a random small fry saying bullshit to gain some clout.

I have worked with bigger vc firms such as matrix partners and they genuinely care about you and want your startup to succeed if they are interested.

Trick is to make something which is genuinely cool and matches with the thesis and talk to vcs who are respectable.

Yc is a great help in this regard. They help you understand which vcs are respectable and which vcs you should treat like mushrooms: feed them shit and keep them in the dark.

Lemkins seems like a mushroom.