I'm curious about the "hula hoop" issue that Julie is referring to. As a male nerd, I will admit that my social skills are a bit lacking. However: I don't see the problem with staring at women who are putting on a show which is clearly unrelated to their work.
If 2 women started making out in the break room, I'm ashamed to say that I might just linger longer than usual.
It helps to focus on empathy in these situations. You may view their activities or two lesbians as making a 'show', but perhaps to them it is a personal matter which they would prefer to enjoy to themselves. Sometimes hula hooping is just embarrassing and it's usually awkward to have a bunch of members of the opposite sex staring at you while you do anything.
I don't blame you at all for having those natural reactions. I do too.
You do have to realize the difference between hula hooping and making out. Hula hooping isn't even a slightly sexual act. Furthermore, objectification is a huge issue in the lesbian community, so in both the hula hooping and making out scenario, gawking is not okay and contributes to an already sexist power structure.
If 2 women started making out in the break room, I'm ashamed to say that I might just linger longer than usual.