Look, I wasn't there and I don't know this woman. People aren't stupid and know when someone actively dislikes them. You couldn't make it through a single post without implying that she was unqualified and using sex organs to get ahead of you. Do you really think you were somehow able to make it through a whole work day without broadcasting your intense disdain for her?

Just a thought.

It's most interesting that you think I've resorted to female stereotypes in an attempt to belittle someone from my former work, having assumed that I'm a male. Irrespective of my actual sex, you've simply reduced me to a stereotype, the very first sin you've accused me of.

The only actual stereotype I used was my reference to the "cool girls," and that was simply because if I go into much more detail I risk my former employer recognizing who I am. He's a particularly vindictive individual with a significant amount of money and influence, and I want nothing further to do with him.

This former employee constantly complained of people harassing her. Things like the drawing of stick figure and leaving it where she would find it (in the wastepaper basket)or people making quiet conversation (who were clearly talking about her, otherwise, why would they talk quietly), or even having the gall to nod at her with a smile, rather than greeting her verbally in a busy office, was also a sign that you didn't like her and wanted her gone.

"Look, I wasn't there and I don't know this woman."

That should have been the only line in your reply, everything else is presumption. Everyone would have been better off if you had not bothered to post.

"People aren't stupid and know when someone actively dislikes them."

I have absolutely no feelings towards this woman, and know little about her. She did not endear herself to me by complaining about the stick figure, but don't go making half-baked assumptions about my feelings toward her.

"You couldn't make it through a single post without implying that she was unqualified and using sex organs to get ahead of you."

I did nothing of the sort. You've inferred much that wasn't in the original posting. Stop it.

One: you've imagined a situation in your own mind where you think I was positioned lower than her. I wasn't, I worked in another department, in a role in no way related to hers.

Two: I never even suggested that she used her sex to get ahead of me. That's your own creation. Stop it.

Three: I have a degree and she didn't, so if you want to argue it on the grounds of qualifications then you've got it wrong. Along the same lines, I had worked in the business for five years prior to her joining us as a fresh recruit, so if you're going to pull seniority or experience you still have it wrong. It's all redundant as she was in a different department doing a completely different job.

You need to understand that most of this is a fiction you've woven to explain that I and some others must have harassed this woman into leaving. I don't know why you feel the need to create such a fiction, but please stop it.

My entire position, in the original post, was that some people are prone to over-reaction and misunderstanding, and can leave a workplace with the mistaken impression that everyone's against them. Your assumption of persecution is an excellent demonstration of this.

Clearly, this is why non-disparagement agreements can be a really good idea, as she could have left and told the world what a terrible workplace it was because we hate anyone without white skin. This is patently untrue, although I would happily agree that the workplace is a terrible one for other reasons, reasons the world deserves to know, and reasons that don't paint the staff in a bad light. I'll present just a few examples as to why I think the place is so bad, and use these to show why the agreements can also a bad idea.

Pay disparity based upon gender: two people were brought on at the same time for the same job. The male with almost 35 years experience and significant qualifications in the field, and the younger female who had no experience or relevant qualifications yet was earning 33% more than the male from day 0, when she was being trained.

This is commonplace there: a young attractive female is automatically paid at a significantly higher rate than her male colleagues (or older female ones) for the same job, regardless of skills or experience. The better looking she is, the higher her hourly rate is. The person they both replaced, an even more attractive woman, was paid 66% more than the newly hired woman, and she had 12 years experience in the role; the money was clearly available, their productivity was identical to hers, they just refused to pay the male at a rate appropriate to his experience. (It's certainly not related to breast size, because his were the biggest in the building.)

There was another who would regularly throw tantrums about her role, receiving increases as a result. She had under two years experience, and in the end was paid a similar amount to middle managers in the parent business for what was a junior role. Meanwhile, her subordinate had worked in her role for eight years. He got back his old job, when she eventually left, but he was paid a lesser amount even though he did a better job without constantly insulting or threatening anybody as she had.

Later, they added a second position and brought on a 50 year old woman with comparable experience to him, paid at the same rate as him, but they both had much expanded responsibility. Combining their pays together, they only got about 14% more than she did, and she did half the work in double the time.

Just so you can't create another fantasy to feel indignant about, I only noted this as a way of indicating how easily replaced the tantrum-thrower was, and how she certainly wasn't being paid for her value to the business.

Also, let me be absolutely plain here: I'm not suggesting that those women were using their sexuality. The CEO is a letch, a literal dirty old man.

During my time there, he was known for constantly seeking the opinion of a particular staff member. She had fortnightly meetings with him, providing "detailed high-level management advice" even though she had no skills, experience, or training in this area. It was well known by his immediate support staff that he was not really interested in this woman's opinion as he never made notes or acted upon it: he liked the chance to look up her miniskirt whenever she sat down.

"Do you really think you were somehow able to make it through a whole work day without broadcasting your intense disdain for her?"

Since I would interact with her for just a few minutes a week during the busiest part of her day, I would be surprised if she had any opinion on me at all.

"...broadcasting your intense disdain..."

Yet another creation of yours. I barely knew the woman, and and did not have an actual opinion on her.

Had she taken a few minutes to speak to me, she would have found out that I was extremely interested in the tattoos that detailed her family history, a "painted oral tradition," but in the end my main experience with her was that she decided that we were all against her.

"Just a thought."

I honestly can't see that much thought went into your rant, as it's mostly a reaction to a constructed injustice. The amusing part is the level of your righteous indignation to your own constructions.

Here's your chance for some real personal growth:

Understand that you've made assumptions that absolutely weren't true. You've put words into my mouth and created motivations for me that aren't real. I've no idea why you even bothered to write any of this and frankly don't care. I don't even know why I bothered to dignify your ridiculous conclusions with a response, but you can be sure that you don't have the whole story, and you won't get any more. I've no further interest in discussing this, nor in defending myself from the imaginings of an Internet voice.

I've wasted more time and energy here than I needed to.